tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089630.post9147031708547763041..comments2023-05-01T06:14:36.203-06:00Comments on Talons and Claws are fun!: Social constructs of friendship in the context of sexualityemeraldimphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13683692183888099714noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089630.post-37262449987857489212008-02-25T08:52:00.000-07:002008-02-25T08:52:00.000-07:00I think from your guys' perspective it's easy to b...I think from your guys' perspective it's easy to believe this idea, but it is more a result of you guys not being social rather than because you're two guys with "similar mindsets" and therefore don't need outside relationships.<BR/>Besides you guys, all of my friends, both gay and straight, enjoy all of their friendships whether short-term or long-term. And I know plenty of gay people that just because they're in a relationship doesn't mean they need to not maintain their friendships.<BR/>I mean look at lot of gay men in our circle of friends. How many have a female best friend(s) that they've known for a long time, yet that doesn't stop when they start dating a guy.<BR/>The idea that hetersexual couples have a hard time interacting is baseless. Yes men and women don't always relate perfectly, but that doesn't mean they have a hard time interacting and therefore need friends. We're social beings and it's not typical to have just one close relationship, so besides having a partner we have friends.<BR/>I think there's also the issue that we're still young and the friendships we build in high school aren't long-term friendships. I don't think most people start making "long-term" deep friendships until later in college and after.<BR/>I think bottom-line is that you guys are very comfortable not having close friends outside of your relationship. It seems you guys just don't value friendships the way that other people do and so you guys don't feel the need to maintain them. And I have to say from my experience, it can be difficult to have a close friendship with you guys.Naveenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10776708639175066665noreply@blogger.com